Dolgopolov Nifont biography

He, very young, came to teach me experimental psychology - a couple with his friend Igor Borisovich Grinshpun. And then there was a cheerful summer of G. with talk about science, marvelous laboratory assistants and, what a sin to hide, red wine. Yesterday’s schoolchildren, we were accepted on equal terms by 18 - by the way, and they only 26, and during this summer we have matured with a jump.

So much so that they already understood: the fantastic Dolgopolovskaya Self -irony is one of the faces of talent. And this is very important for growing up: at first to see a talent in a person, and then a teacher. Because it is impossible to learn without inspiration. And Nifont Borisovich himself, an eminent, recognized ascetic of practical psychology, remained to the end phenomenal, gifted, inspired by the student.

He made a transition from “physicists to psychologists”, without leaving a large student bench at Moscow State University. As often happens, his decision fully justified himself. After all, Nifont Borisovich then “sent people to the future”, see him in honor of his grandfather-Nifont Ivanovich Dolgopolov, a famous surgeon, a nobleman, a social revolutionary. His social activity was “marked” by the deputies in the State Duma, and before that, two links and friendship with the classic of Kazakh poetry Abay, whom he met in the exile in Semipalatinsk.

L. Tolstoy, A. Chekhov, V. Korolenko, P. Kropotkin, V. Veresaev, N. This is far from a complete list of names included in the circle of communication between N. Dolgopolov. Holding, the grandson said that there was rebellion from his grandfather. Although he simply adopted the family spirit of freedom that reigned both inside and around him. In that - unimaginable at that time - we have plunged freedom and plunged, becoming a laboratory for a while.

It so happened that, having left Alma Mater, I never had a visit with Nifon Borisovich with Igor from time to time intersected. And he, together with Igor, surprisingly productively instructed the psychedram cuttings about her to our psychological birches about her for the first time, and I learned from the Borisych for the first time - at the lectures they still did not pass.

Psychodrama and gestalt therapy. Which were connected in the footerpecket - psychological work with the future. Actually, this is what the psychologist, any psychologist is designed to do. Man is a creature that lives only in the future. If he begins to cling to the straw of the past and grab the log of the present, then his life still pushes him there - the same way.

Our roots are ahead of us. We are dragged - and precisely for the “roots” - forward our desires, motives, goals. And not everyone is able to realize this absolute “norm of life”, but by realizing - to accept and understand what to do about it. The best help than Nifont Dolgopolov could barely offer another consultant and therapist. I read Nifont Borisovich’s note below: he has not changed at all since then.

Except for the fact that he was gone yesterday. In his LiveJournal, he wrote about the departed in G. next to Igor it was always good and safe to grow or simply absorb life. ” They are next to them again. The rest remains to "grow and absorb life." By that time, all Moscow oncologists managed to abandon him many times and bury him. And he continued to live. Month after a month, year after year.

He continued to work and start new projects. And then he returned to surprised doctors and forced himself to treat. Continued to delight the amazing young wife. He came, hung with tubes and apparatuses, and found the words of support. He smiled and winked. He gave life to a wonderful little son and opened his way to the big world - his son will always have a guiding star, a courageous and wise dad.

Nifont invented his recipe against the disease - a mite recipe.

Today Nifont has gone, and the recipe left us forever. The first day of spring, and today I have an anniversary. Over the past two years, I have completed a chemotherapy cycle. Sometimes I hear in the order of a compliment or support: “You are a hero! I am pleased, of course, when they praise, but I know inside myself that I do not produce any special heroism, but just the following, as far as I succeed, four, as it is now fashionable to say, “trends” in my character: 1.

I am a dodgy and slippery type. Intelligent people positively call this quality “creativity”. On the planet Earth, all the Western is often covered with this word .... Well, in a simple way, this property is well described in the old Jewish bike: “Pregnant at a late time comes to the doctor and says:“ You know, in my opinion, my child is somehow completely wrong in the stomach, I'm afraid of problems during childbirth ...

”. The doctor examines her and woeful-briefly scratches her turnip: "Yeah ... quite unsuccessful ...". Then he suddenly asks the future mother: “And who are you by nationality? And the father? The doctor exhales with relief: “Well then there is nothing to worry about! Somehow it will get out! The second - I'm stupid enough. When they ask me: “What did you feel when during these 6 years I was almost a facet?

And I mutterly mutter with almost some guilt in marty: "Mmmm ...". Yes, because I actually did not feel anything, as it was called there, in the face of death or a cool danger.However, I am not going to. Since it is superfluous for me, too much. As, perhaps, for a warrior of the Macedonian phalanx with the inevitable approximation of a furious Persian cavalry or deadly combat elephants.

And you just need to stupidly obey the order ringing in the brain: “Hold the system! Third - I am very lazy. And I’m already used to this slightly crazy lifestyle of a psychologist, with his confusion about the value of the inner world, the “henity” of contact with other people ... I also managed to get used to my loved ones and friends, whom I can, I love, and when I can’t, as I can, I hate it, and I am lazily losing them ...

lazily to change this life that has already developed my life in my own life. Other. Moreover, I do not particularly believe in other worlds, since I got used to the medieval laziness of the “razor of the Occam”-the extra entities and bells of thoughts must be cut off ... I looked at the listed three qualities ... some kind of ... socially ugly something ... I think, maybe the fourth is more likely to be called-like determination, perseverance, will.

Then he sighed with chagrin, if it was honest and it would be time ..., then the fourth quality has nothing to do with the highest cortical functions. And it seems that it is an organismic reflex, like the protozoa - all kinds of amoeba, ciliates ... 4. So, the fourth - I look a little like a tick - how it can cling to all its paws, and I don’t know what else ...

so that you will pull its horseradish or move it. I sometimes learn from my daughter this chain and stubborn, recalling the episode from her school childhood. Something in the winter, already in full, I noticed the light in her room. Cler very, entered and was amazed at the picture seen. The ten-year-old Masha, in a coat and a fur hat, sits on the windowsill and swinging a little, stuck into some kind of book.

Well, something like that ... on the development of the site.